Friends

Its the exam period...Let not talk about the hard stuff and make some jokes... The hard stuff being the religious stuff, the philosophical stuff or even the poems... sometimes you just get a little sick reading them doesn't it... So what should we talk about? Ha! Seems that finding something good to write can be difficult...in fact tedious... So how about we talk friendship? I think this has been the most forgotten topic in my blog...

Friend: 1) a supporter / an ally 2) someone you know well or really likes... In the Gangs of Buddies, i think we are floating between this two definition. As long as i have known you guys, i never try to even remember what you guys likes to eat, what colour you all like, where you guys turn to when you are upset, when is the exact day of your birthday, what type of songs you may prefer... many of these questions puts me to shame as a friend... but a point worth encouraging is the fact that i am a supporter of you all (most of the time)... hahaha!

All that i come to know of is:
1) We spend time together
2) We enjoy sitting down and share our lifes
3) We spend our birthday with a group of hungry men
4) We get to choose what we want for our birthday without feeling any embarrasement
5) We bare our hearts when we fall and cry
6) We care for each without overly showing it (this is typical for cheena man)
7) We only want the best for each even if it is at the expense of yourselves
8) We have someone to talk to when we are down and needs some encouragement

They say friends stay together only when times for them are good... Its only in testing times when we see the the real people coming out... The time has not come yet... If someday we do come to that point, i hope i have you guys walking beside me as we trekked together out of the dificult times... i am glad to have come through so many years with you all... you guys have been a major part of my life and for the nest few parts i hope we can still hold true this wish...

Things may changed when we all settle down, have families of our own, have work commitments, anythings that hinders this friendship may arise...

for all those that are unpredictables, we shall not ponder over now for it has yet to come,
for the past that we have walk through together, lets pick up the valuable experience and make it better
for now, let just enjoy the people around us that we call friends, a supporter, an ally, a person we like, someone we are for... Treasure the moment as friends as it may not be tomorrow... Now is the time!

Cheers! for the exams that is coming!! For the lousy work we are working on!!! Life is made a little nice with you guys around!!!

简单

小孩的世界里快乐可以很简单
我的世界里简单是件快乐的事
〖周杰伦演唱会在大荧幕上出现的字〗

Give this some thought...

How do you feel?
About this time when we all are so busy and frustrated, i believe the phase just bring about a whole new meaning...

如果可以…

手里提着两杯热咖啡，
一步一步就是回家的感觉…
速度、鲁莽、挑逗的路灯，
一个顽强的冷血机器…
我的咖啡洒满路地，
呼吸的权力竟是奢侈的回忆…
我用力求情但谁给予…

今天不会用钥匙打开熟悉的门，
熟悉得脸孔失去被复习的机会，
享受回家温暖的气息，
好像是好久以前的回忆，
后悔没急已经不能挽回撕裂的日历，
如果可以…
生命的拔河，我没了力气…
哽咽…窒息…呼……

As sad as this post may seems to be, it is really a reflection of the way we may have choosen to live the lives we hold on to. We have taken the very act of returning home safely for granted. It has become more of a suppose to happen things in our life that we have forgotten how to enjoy the very essence of returning home and enjoying the enjoyable stuffs the house may bring... Be it your pillow, your computer, your favourite blanket, your pictures, that all warm your hearts and lets be thnakful if we can go home to see them every day...

To illutrate my point even further, i made a analogy between the warmth of the house and the breath we all take!
The most taken for granted thing in life is actually the ability to be able to breath. It has been with us right smack from when we burst out of our mums' womb nad will follow till we drop death. But think about it... Have you ever been thankful about the fact that you can breath well and good? Maybe when you go swimming or have ever experience the effects of the lack of air on your body will you appreciate it well...The ability to respire is the most undermined ability that was given to us as we all push your focus towards the ability to see and touch and hear... Learn to appreciate the beauty of the breath and its in this appreciation you may find the meaning of this life you breath through...

Confucius

子曰：
知者不惑，
仁者不忧，
勇者不惧。

Dialogue

In the response to Valium lastest message, i have decided to post this letter as any good reply to the comment will be very limited by the amount of characters the tag board can take...
Valium: "a good attitude doesn't really need another catalyst to cultivate.. ourselves r good enuff to be one.." From the very contextual meaning that i derived from reading the message is this. That a good attitude is very much dependent on ourselves and only ourselves. Are you really that absolute about things? Do you want to reconsider your position? Do you mean that you need no teachers to tell you cheating is bad and you wont cheat? Or your Mum to tell you stealing is no good before you wont steal? You can know what is the right attitude without any outside influence as in this case the catalyst... Are you saying that we already know what is right from wrong the very moment that we are born to this earth?

If so you may have share Plato’s view in one of his dialogues “THE MENO”… In it, he conducted an experiment with a boy to prove to Meno that everything in the past lives are memories to be recollected. Plato believes that we all carry with us the memories of the past lives and we only have to trigger an interest before we can remember it. In this very case you may have meant that! That being, you already know how to do the seemingly upright things even as a child. (Read Meno By Plato Written 380 B.C.E Translated by Benjamin Jowett) http://classics.mit.edu/Plato/meno.html If you are reading it, please let me know so I can pin point the important extract for you… its really a long dialogue.

But as a rebuttal to the above, I would like to say that it is really very difficult for me to fathom sperms and ovaries having to combine themselves and then bring with it memories of past lives. DNA? They are genetic codes that governs the appearance and abilities of the person from the parents. They are not memories and definitely not catalyst telling people to do good or adopt the right attitude?

Have you ever heard of the Chinese phase: “当局者迷,旁观者清【dāngjúzhěmí,pángguānzhěqīng】 the spectators see the chess game better than the payers; the onlooker sees most of the game ”
Havent it been the case for us whereby we always looked back in our life and thought about how we could actually make better decisions. At the point of time, we all think we are doing the right thing and even if people tell us that we are in fact indulging in the wrongs, we persist in it. How ignorant!? Finally someday we relent, but that of course comes with a price… So you see when we are in the game, we tend to lose yourselves in it… other people will see things at a better point of view… This other people in the particular post will have to mean, Religion, friends, Mum, teachers, etc. These are the very essential catalyst that will have to be around us guiding us to lead a socially acceptable life and cultivates a socially acceptable attitude.

When these catalyst is around, then it becomes your responsibility to decide if we want it or want to escape from it… That I think is your point! We have the catalysts and I think it definitely is essential, then the rest will be up to us…