Anger Management 2

I was watching Channel U on tuesday nights and really enjoyed the show 于丹《论语》心得. The show explains the different concepts of confucious teachings. For the skeptics or pragmatics, they may be loads of crap that ain't applicable in these seemingly troubled times.

Why do i say troubled times? Old prices are increasing encouraging inflation. The war on terror news no longer splashed across the Straits Times but nevertheless still raging in the far western end of asia. Problems for the us continues to pound and it is at these difficult times we try to comfort ourselves that everything will be better. The frustrations that we faced cause us to react in certain way to counter and protect ourselves. It is also where by i believe the teachings of ancient books can find me some respite from the teacherous world of problems and boredom.

There lives a family with a very bad-tempered kid. The kid would always expressed his anger by shouting, destroying and hitting people or things. To curb this problem his father implored him to punch a nail into the wooden fence outside their house whenever he shouts, screams or beats up people. In no time the wooden fence was so full of nails that it began to hit him that getting so worked up so often really isn't getting him anywhere and he got quite embarassed about it. The kid decided to seek his father of help.
His father said:" For everyday that you curb your temper, you are allowed to remove a single nail from the wooden fences. However, for everytime you burst into flames and cause me anguish, put one nail back on."
The young kid was determined to remove all the nails with his pride at stake. He controlled and curbed the propensity to be angry and soon enough, most nails were removed from the fence after a period of time. By this time the kid had already refined himself and brought his father to the wooden fence.
His father said:" The nails may have been removed, you can apologized, but the holes that the nails made will always be there."

《论语》“言寡尤，行寡悔”
说话要用脑子，做事要考虑后果，这是为人处世很重要的一点。
要想在纷繁复杂的现代社会中，处理好各种各样的人际关系，更重要的是自己要懂礼节。
Adapted from: http://www.ldbj.com/yudan_lunyu_xinde/yudan_lunyu_xinde_21.htm

Before we do or speak about anything, we have to be cautious and be careful. Think far ahead to prevent hurt to others and regrets to yourself.

To find solutions to the bigger problems, let just start to find solutions to problems beginning with yourself.

Come back Morgan

Hi all! Its been a long time since i last put anything down on cyberspace accept the "cheem" poem. I think i should just start rattering off something to set forth once again my desire to blog constantly.

My job:
Still don't really like it. It's just getting more and more discouraging to be hearing more and more about the benefits that will be taken away. We should deserved better. For the past year much has been accomplished by us. We have taken up more than we can swallow for a good deal of time but nothing seems to matter to the "management". They are the people who see things we dont see... Yeah!! See shit!! Change the shift system? Talks of pay revision? Loads of crap if nothing materialises...thus far it remains that way. Shitty way proudly brought to you by the "Management".

My life:
Got myself a lovely fiancee in phuket. Trying to get a flat but no luck thanks to the crazy property market. Applied for the Telok Blangah Towers with the results coming out in December. It is really going to cost a bomb if i got it. Unless it "God's will", i will have to work hard to finance it. But with the help of "Management", i think it will be a high mountain to climb. Everyone is hale and healthy. I feel happy everywhere else except at the icon of Singapore!

Alright!! Thats all for now man... A tiring disposition from a comeback blog kid...

圆缘

皎洁月 桥塔风铃邀谁眷
水影绰 燕夜归一生空等谁
湖心亭 薄雾飘逸 传出扣人弦
空荡荡 寒风吹唤 寂寞宣
我随弦 回首亭匀 你的优美
扣人弦 扣万世红线 万世情缘
数百月 有缠绵 哭丧脸
缘起灭 不知何时共眷 比翼双飞

雪糕

一口雪糕 苦了口
一句过话 闻风丧意

滋味是心情的电影
道出莫明其妙 我的懵懂 还是谁的任性

是在何时雪糕苦了我
是为了何事雪糕冰冻得我害怕碰
谁不想让事事甜甜也随心所欲
随遇而安 是没有勉强 不想太多得过
就算没了完美爱情电影过 也有女孩谈谈风

滋味是心情的电影
道出莫明其妙 我的懵懂 还是谁的任性

我没风度 不懂讨好要怎么说
因为我觉得我没错 还是不懂错
孤单不被理会 不是你 不是我
是你和我之间的 无奈

结果雪糕一口都没碰

Our time. Religions

The meaning of religion, through the search from the internet bears 4 meanings;

1) Belief in and reverence for a supernatural power or powers regarded as creator and governor of the universe.
2) A personal or institutionalized system grounded in such belief and worship.
3) The life or condition of a person in a religious order.
4) A set of beliefs, values, and practices based on the teachings of a spiritual leader.
5) A cause, principle, or activity pursued with zeal or conscientious devotion.

Science and religion co-existed peacefully till the turn of the 19th century. Much of the unknowns of the universe were explained and accepted by the people. The advent of the industrialisation and enlightenment brought differentiation and turmoils to the peaceful co-existence of the words. Science began its journey of experimentations, methodical and theoretical explanations of the universe. Religions seems to have stop moving all together.

We began to doubt things that cannot be proven by science. We see to believe. Religions took the very first meaning stated in (1). Even so, much of the universe still could not be explained by science but the explosion of knowledge gain through the years of enlightenment enpowered us with critical thinking and the realisation that much of the explaining of the universe can only be gain through tried and tested methods rather than the words and wisdom of scared men centuries before.

Much remains as it is till recent times when religion became a tool. A tool for terrorist. A call through the twisted promulgation of doctrines that summon its people to rise against their enemies. Many innnocent people were killed in bombs attacks. Chaos. Wars waged and fought. Chaos. Many people joined the twisted cause. Many more joined the twisted cause. Many got involved. Koreans even. Religion has become (2) (3) (4) (5).

People don't lose faith easily. Look at the way Singaporeans bet religiously at 4-D and Toto and you will realise how strong the faith of people can be. Why is it that people have a lesser inkling towards religions in our time. Many are free thinkers, atheists. They renounce religion. They have their own set of rules and way of life. Have religions lose their appeal? Have we become smarter? So much smarter that we do not need religion to help us understand the way things are and live our way of life the way it is?

Flip the papers, read the news. The trend of the society moving into a state of lawlessness jolt me into the realisation that the world has become a far more dangerous place. A living hell. Laws are in place for the deterence of criminal acts by the consequence of punishment. Religions, without regards to twisted onces, promotes morality that prevent even the advent of that evil thought. In our time, religion is not supernatural but the undersatanding that morality has to be pursued with zeal and devotion. Morality in not about faith. It is about the very existence of our human existence. The only little thinkling in us that still make us sane is our morality, a deriative of religions.

"Please Don't Call Me! I Don't Want to Come Back!"

Must be quite a loud title to the start of posting...

I am in a job
I am not totally in love with

Please don't call me
I want my days to laze
Please don't call me
Shades of shyness engulf me when "No, i cannot!" is all that I can say
When you call me I don't really like it
in fact i dislike it a lot

Please don't call me
I am not rich but i don't need that extra filth to fill my anguish
Please don't call me
Sitting my the roadside stall having my coffee and mee pok fills me better
than the extra filth set forth by the ringing of the till

Coz,
I am in a job
I am not really in love with
Please don't call me!!

Any one who can rap this or put some rythm in for me who be nice.

Let go. Let go?

Came across a book lately. A chinese book about "letting go". Letting go as in learning to see things in lighter moods and not be too hard on yourself. I like the way things were presented in the book, but i reckon it is going to be an easy task to "let go".

We did not grow up fighting hard for what we want and end up having to let go? Tough act to follow. We have pride we cannot swallow. We have love ones we cannot let go. We have friends to share your troubled soul. We want things (Cars, Condos, Credit cards, PSP, DS Lite, Plasma tv...). Many things in fact. We hang on to the pursuit of things, the pursuit of love.

Many events happened since the last time i blog. The last time happened to be my birthday. Many emotions were experienced in the 2 months that passed. I still cannot let go. Especially the passing of my grandma. The tinge of sadness lingers whenever the thought arises. The thought of her passing. I held her hands and they were cold. I tried to be strong but emotions poured. She will never carry me the way she did long time ago. I can never ride the bicycle and hold her tight as she cycles me to school. She can no longer bargain for a small t-shirt for me at toys-r-us. Warm tears roll as letters stutter. I am gald i finally have the courage to talk about it on my blog. Maybe it is a closure for me. Its has just been 49 days since her passing and all the rites have been done. "Let go"? Is it really possible? I tried hard but do not think so.

【今年的蛋糕】

【今年的蛋糕】
你说今年的礼物需要很多时间来准备。漫不经心的我重复一样的问题，想要知道。你的坚持有如魔法师的催眠，催眠我漫长的一无所知。

最近，有一些事情让我有了一点伤。眼泪没了已往的坚忍不拔，心也尝了柠檬酸。有你的体谅，迂回了伤心情。我的生日3月20日。我想你有很多的想法，让我可以尝尽甜甜的爱与温暖。我也感觉强烈。

我在家。一家人吃了晚餐，切了生日蛋糕。

我拿起了手机，传了讯息；I still at home... Eating my cake at 9... So will reach your place around 930? ;)

在你家门外徘徊，等你的出现。你的眼眶泛了泪光。

原来今年的礼物是蛋糕。


“傻女孩，你每天的温柔让我逐渐深陷。你不经意，小小的举动，我会开心数夜数天。 蛋糕的滋味吃是嘴里，甜是心里。就算不吃，也可成为 11 年来的经典。今年的蛋糕是我 28 年以来吃过，第一个有人为我而特别精心自制的。她的甜味，你的爱，我留在心中数夜数天 。”

A Traveller's Tale

I have travelled to Nepal and Melbourne during the first 2 months of this year. These 2 places totally different in cultures and in sights. Experiences in these places also differ. I shall share with you guys the things that i have seen and felt during the trip. Do not worry, there will not be overwhelming outpouring of emotions but rather a practical narration of the experiences that i share with 2 different people.

Nepal:
Himalayan SwayambunathTrekking

Home of the Himalayans ranges. The magnificence of the mountain still amazes me. Everest sits high and mighty amongst its brothers.

Lumbini is the birth place of the Buddha. The sacred land of which the religion of buddhism bored the first seed that brought salvations to many.

Trekking in Nepal brought new and fresh perspective to my travelling experience. Due to the wintry conditions, we were not able to fully appreciate the beauty of the picturesque himalayan mountains on our trek. On the plane back home, i came across a quote that goes something like this:

"... the best part of travelling lies in its unpredictability... the uncertainty of which you may not see what you came to seek... that's the beauty of nature and that of travelling... it leaves you wanting more, the lure of its beauty makes you hungrier..."

And of course with a good travel khaki,

Melbourne:

2 must do things in Melbourne. Visit Philip Island and travel the Great Ocean Road. Sights and beauty totally different from that of Nepal. Love that contrast between these 2 places. One of which is "mountain-ful" and the other rushed upon by laps of ocean surfs.

12 apostles, Great Ocean Road Philip Island, Penguin Parade

And of course with lots of love,